Underappreciated: Teenagers should value mothers more

Callie Bollinger

I know some people do not have good relationships with their mothers and some mothers really don’t “know best”. For those people, they hopefully have another person in their lives to fill that hole, but if they don’t, I hope they know that there are people out there who care about them and would be willing to go the extra mile to help them. This article reflects my experience with my mom and how I have seen my friends and acquaintances behave toward their mothers.

Trying to find your place in high school is difficult, especially when you’re trying to “fit in.” Once students enter high school, no matter what clique they fall into, it is frequently an accepted fact that your mom is no longer cool. If a kid would rather stay at home and spend quality time with their mom it’s considered lame. In reality most moms put so much effort into making sure their children are happy, but that goes unnoticed within most families until much later in life. We all need to find a way to see how much our moms really do for us and show them a little appreciation every now and then.

I understand that you probably had a long day, but your mom had a much longer one. Don’t blow up in her face because she asked you to clean up the kitchen, do the laundry, or clean your room. She has worked hard all day and that job provides all the necessities and so much more to make you comfortable and happy. Don’t you think that maybe doing a couple household chores would ease her load and make her day a little bit easier? 

One of the many things we take for granted is that mothers provide so much for us beyond just necessities. Mothers protect and watch over us. They do their best to make our lives a little bit easier. It’s common that teens don’t usually acknowledge how much their mothers provide for them, or fathom how much they love them, but that doesn’t change that they do.When your mom gets angry, she does it because she knows you can do better. She pushes you because she knows what you are capable of, and most importantly; she does know what’s best for you. Almost everything moms do is out of love for their children, because they truly want the best for them, whether they believe it or not.

You might be thinking right now “but she doesn’t understand me,” and that is where you are wrong. She knows everything about you, what you like, what you hate, when you’re sad, and when you’re happy. Your mom was once a teenager…I know shocking. She’s also been through the same things you’re going through right now, her situation might have even been worse. Your mom knows how the world works because she has lived in it and you’re just now learning about it. 

So when she tells you something is bad for you, or you shouldn’t be going down a certain path, I recommend you listen. Don’t be rude, instead be open minded about what she’s saying and thank her for the motherly advice, because it’s rich in wisdom and honesty, and you know what they say, “mother knows best.” 

Then again mothers also make mistakes, sometimes very bad ones. Some people have the misfortune of having a controlling and manipulative elder, instead of having a loving mother figure. To people who have to go through this I say, do what you know is best for you, don’t let someone bully you into something you don’t want to.

I promise that your mom loves you with all of her heart, and only wants the best for you. Next time you think about berating your mother on the hardships of a teenager, remember; she has been in your position, take into consideration how much she does and will continue to do for you, we should all be a little nicer to our moms. I encourage you to acknowledge the fact that maybe you don’t appreciate your mom as much as you should.